i'm glad he said it [565]

i got to talking with him about how interacting with his wife was making me laugh.

"seems like a tough girl, dude."
"yeah man - that's why it works!"

i've been on a series of odd dates lately, though i'm damn close on giving up. i don't know... the process is tedious, and it's just ridiculous. i mean, you either have a connection or you don't, right?

anyway, so we're talkin', and he says exactly what i've been pondering since carli ditched:

"if someone let's me go without being checked, i'll run over 'em. that's what i love about my wife - if i'm acting like an asshole, she has no problem with calling me out on it."

he's right... and i'm the same way... almost.

i tend to be quite accommodating: "you okay?", "can i get you anything?", "are you sure?"

the problem is that the more one defers to me, and insists on deferring to me, eventually, there's no going back. if, after a few months, you've continually shown that it doesn't bother you if i get it my way, then i have to assume that i can just start making the decisions because if you won't, someone has to.

and i have no problem assuming that role.

it's not just with girls, though, it's everybody... i don't like wishy-washy people, and am glad to lead you if that's what you've shown you need.

anyway, my first reaction to him was to agree: "i'm glad you said that, because i thought it was just me!"
"no, man - you gotta be you."

we've both been in seattle a while, and though our addresses and driver licenses and such state "seattle", we're not true passive-aggressive seattleites.

just a couple of aggressive jackasses living in one of the greatest cities in the world.

too bad the people are fucked.

maybe they just need a leader.